Expressing Condolences
Posted: 10-Feb-09How should a letter of sympathy be written? It can be done in just four easy steps. First, the salutation, this would be how you address the person inside the card or note. Dear…, For…, To…. Any of these is perfectly appropriate; Use what feels right. Second, be thoughtful and address the loss the person has experienced. It can be as simple as "I am so sorry for your loss." You can simply say "I know this must be a very difficult time for you." Empathy is important because it validates the person's feelings of sadness, loss, or bereavement. Third, if you have an appropriate memory or thought to share, be thoughtful and include it. Sharing a childhood memory, or remembering a favorite memory helps the bereaved person know that their loved one will be remembered. When my grandmother passed, one of the most thoughtful notes I received included the note "I will always treasure running into Sophie at the coffee stand every Sunday. She always had a smile to share". It was a simple thought but helped me remember that my loved one was loved by more than just me. Lastly, the close—“Sincerely”, “love”, "best wishes", something sincere and simple is always best. (Source: eHow.com)
